Sometimes, Growing Hurts
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An Eccentric Housewife
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As our bodies morphed from new humans to full grown adults, there were times that growing was uncomfortable, maybe even downright painful.
As we matured, we experienced other forms of pain, as lessons were learned. Yet, without those lessons, we may not have reached the goals and aspirations that we have. We may not be the kind, generous, thoughtful people we are.
The thing is, there is always something to be learned, some way in which we can grow. As long as we are present in these bodies, we will always have opportunities to dig deeper and reach higher.
Here I am, in my 40s, being more the woman I always hoped I’d be, but it hasn’t been easy and it hasn’t been all sunshine and rainbows.
There have been those who gained advantages from how I was, (I won’t say who, because I’ve always been me, but how I am… that is what has truly changed.) There have been those who’d rather watch me sink than bare my burdens with me. Those who enjoy tearing me down rather than lifting me up. And I’ve let them. I’ve taken it and owned it and blamed myself, alone.
But … LOVE.
I learned the love of the Lord and I’m learning to love myself. As I do, I am no longer owning all the blame. I’m not as worried about what others believe about me, because I know myself. I’m not leaning on or reaching out to those who have been unavailable. I have self respect and I have boundaries.
And I have had to let go of people that I love, because I love myself too, and that hurts. I’ve had to accept that not everyone in my life is healthy or safe and that, as much as it hurts, loving myself means protecting myself.
And the thing about that is, though it’s painful, there is healing in it. There is recognizing, even more, the unhealthy parts still within me. To make changes and to do better. Taking care of me makes me better able to take care of the ones who truly need me. Learning to be more and more present, by learning that I am safe now, I am strong, I am courageous.
My friends, face the pain, allow the hurt of growth. We must grow if we want to change; if we want our lives to change.
If you need help finding your inner strength, I’m here. As a life coach, that is a main priority of mine. Growth and healing are possible and together, we can watch you shine.